Often we find ourselves waiting for our circumstances to change before we let ourselves be happy, content or successful. But what if instead of waiting, you could let yourself feel all the things you want to feel now just by changing your mind about how you see the circumstances in your life? That’s what reframing is all about!
This tool allows you to see all the situations that you used to find limiting from a new perspective and instead see all the opportunity that is there for you. We have a 5 Step Reframe process that we’ve played with for some years; our students and clients say this is one of the most powerful self-coaching tools they have ever used and we agree.
By learning how to Identify your limiting beliefs and use the 5 Step Reframe process, we can start to sort through our limiting thoughts in real time instead of waiting for something outside of us to change. It also rewires our brain to look for resources rather than limitations.
Read on if you’d like to know how we teach people to discover and reframe their self-limiting beliefs into supportive statements that allow them to manifest!
IDENTIFY:
The best way to identify any ideas, beliefs, or emotions that may be holding us back is to simply make a list. Ask that part of you that has all the doubt and fear what it wants to say. Some common phrases sound like,
“I’ll never be able to ____________,”
“I can’t do that because ___________,” or
“no one will think I’m ____________.”
Take some time, give yourself some space to vent, and just write down all of those negative thoughts that run through your head. Make sure you write no less than ten statements. Read back through them and put stars next to the statements that you feel the most emotion toward.
Next,
REFRAME:
Save the statements with stars for last.
One by one, reframe each statement.
- Be willing to accept that the statement is just a belief and not necessarily the truth.
- Think of counter-examples proving the statement is not the truth. Challenge the statement as though you are helping a younger version of you see examples of the opposite of the limiting belief.
- Craft a new belief statement that you would rather have:
- Example 1: if you say, “No one will want to hire me,” reframe to something like, “I have been hired before and I will be hired when the time is right by the right person/ company.”
- Example 2: “I will never meet my ideal partner,” can be changed to, “I am working to become my best self and when I am my best self, I attract the equivalent in others. I control what I receive in this life.”
- Recognize that this belief has held you back and you are ready to let it go.
- Come up with an Action Step you can take that aligns with this new belief pattern.
A regular practice of this reframing process can change your entire life. We know this because we have experienced it first hand and have witnessed the shifts in our clients’ and loved ones’ lives.
We challenge you to see what happens in your world when you commit to just one week of noticing and reframing limiting beliefs instead of looping them on repeat.
Please reach out to us and share! We would love to hear your story!
With love,
Aria + Lindsey
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